It’s January! Hooray!

L. (3) was happily playing with Legos yesterday morning. He received a Lego fire station set for Christmas and has spent a good portion of the last week creating everything but a fire station with it. In fact, whenever I’ve attempted to help him turn the pile of Legos into the item pictured on the box, I’ve been immediately reprimanded and told I’m doing it wrong.

Confession: This drives me a bit crazy. I’m of the belief that one should follow the rules, especially when it comes to building cool Lego sets. But clearly, my second-born child disagrees with that belief.

Anyway, as I watched, L. picked up his Legos and started walking toward the kitchen in a dazed, out-of-it kind of way, staring up somewhere around the level of the upper cupboards. He wandered past the breakfast table, around the edge of the counter, and across the kitchen. It was almost as if an invisible string were pulling him along.

Just as I figured out what he was looking at and being drawn inexorably toward (the new calendar on the wall), he started jumping up and down — literally — with joy.

“It’s January! Hooray! January! Hooray! January! Hooray! It’s January!! Hooray!!!

Chad and I cracked up. Here was a three-year-old who recognized that there was a new calendar on the wall, who figured out that the big “J-word” on it was “January,” and who was now overwhelmed with excitement at the fact that a new year had arrived.

Even after the jumping stopped, L. had a huge smile on his face and was, without a doubt, overjoyed.

Confession #2: I knew why he was so excited.

We have some fun things planned in the month of January, and L. has known about them for several weeks. Ever since somewhere around December 12th, he’s been asking me, “Is it January yet?” and “Why is December going on for so long?” So today, when he realized that finally, finally December was over and January had arrived, he simply couldn’t contain his glee.

I loved seeing L. so excited — what mom doesn’t enjoy seeing her child incredibly happy?

But the whole situation also made me think about the ways we, as adults, face a new year.

Some people are so glad when January arrives because the previous year was miserable, or difficult, or painful, or stressful…and they are thrilled to see it finally go away. Eager for a fresh start, they welcome January with open arms.

Others are excited to see January on the calendar because the new year holds promise — a new baby scheduled to arrive, a long-anticipated trip, the completion of a project or realization of a dream.

Some are indifferent, seeing nothing to celebrate or enjoy about a new year…just more of the same of what the last year held.

Some look wistfully back at the just-passed year, not quite ready to let it go.

As for me, I often approach a new year with some mixed feelings.

January, in general, is not my favorite month. Where we live, the weather is usually bleak — gray, cold, dreary…no sun for days or weeks at a time. I don’t like it and don’t particularly look forward to it. The holidays infuse excitement and fun and variety into December, while January often feels….blah.

On the other hand, I appreciate the promise of a new calendar year. There’s always a feeling of new beginnings, new opportunities…a sense of anticipation for what the new year will hold.

And this year, I’m struck hard with the comforting thought that regardless of what this year holds — January bleakness? Exciting new opportunities? Heartache? Joy? — that God already knows, and that He is ever working to accomplish His purposes.

Many are the plans in a man’s heart,
but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.

- Proverbs 19:21

See, I’m often tempted to have “many plans” in my heart. As with L.’s Lego fire station, I have very clear ideas on how I think things should go and how they should work out. But, of course, I am limited in my perspective, lacking in wisdom, and often selfish in motivation. So my many plans? Let’s just say that I’m thankful they don’t always come to pass!

But with the reminder that God holds the year 2010, and knowing that He is good and loving and in control, I can look at the coming year with excitement. Maybe I won’t jump up and down in the kitchen, but I can echo L.’s sentiment: “It’s January! Hooray!”

Christ Is Risen

Empty Tomb

He Is Risen

The angel said to the women, “Do not be afraid, for I know that you seek Jesus who was crucified. He is not here, for he has risen, as he said. Come, see the place where he lay. Then go quickly and tell his disciples that he has risen from the dead…”

- Matthew 28:5-7a

Words before meaning

L. came out of Sunday School today, excited — as usual — to tell me what they had done. They had snacks, they sang songs, they talked to “Bubba” — a sheep puppet who entertains them every week, dearly loved by all the children — and they learned about Jesus.

“What did you learn about Jesus?” I asked.

He handed me his coloring paper — a simple cross with the words Jesus Died for Us written across the top.

My first reaction was a combination of curiosity and confusion. I wondered how a curriculum for tiny kids handled the concept of Jesus’ death. L.’s too young to even attempt to explain it to me, but still, I’m curious.

L., like most two-year-olds has no concept of death whatsoever. In part, because he has been almost entirely isolated from it. And in part because, well, he’s two. He barely understands the concept of “Daddy’s on a business trip.” Forget the “…and will be back in three days.”

Time is an enigma. He knows he doesn’t like nap-time, but he does like play-time. The idea of “tomorrow” and “yesterday” are vague enough, let alone the concepts of “life” and “death.”

So I wondered — did they keep it short and sweet? Just “Jesus died for us.” That would be my guess. But wasn’t that phrase pretty much meaningless to all those energetic little toddlers? If they didn’t get it, what was the point?

But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that learning, repeating, and even believing the words before truly understanding the meaning behind them happens all the time.

I was once a 20-year-old bride, and completely clueless. I stood in front of a church and proclaimed my love and commitment to Chad before God, our family, and our friends. I said those words, I meant those words, I whole-heartedly believed those words.

But did I have any clue what committed, forever, no-matter-what marital love was all about?

Um…no.

Did I know what it meant to hang in there when things got rough, to love someone after I got to know them through and through, to put someone else before myself?

Not particularly. Does anyone, on their wedding day?

I was just pretty sure that I was marrying a great guy who would never let me down, a boy with blue eyes and plenty of smarts, the person who would always make it easy for me to love him.

We learn, though, don’t we? Even in the best marriages, it takes time to learn what real love is all about.

We say the words, and even believe them, long before we comprehend the meaning behind them.

Another example: We have our first child and someone tells us, “It will change your whole life.” We nod in agreement, knowing this to be true, believing on some level that we will indeed be changed by becoming parents. But it’s not until after we’ve changed countless diapers, spent a sleepless night or two nursing croup, prayed desperately for protection and guidance for a grade-schooler, wait up for a past-curfew teenager… that we realize the full import of that statement. It will change your whole life.

You’re not kidding.

The same goes for Christians. We make a decision to “follow Christ,” but we rarely know what we’re getting into at the time. Letting Him prune us, deal with our stubborn sins, lead us down paths we may never have chosen for ourselves — these are the things that teach us what following Him really means. And they only happen over time, making the understanding a gradual process.

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So I put L.’s Sunday School paper up on the fridge, and this week we’ll talk over lunch about that lesson.

Jesus died for us.

Right now, they are just words. Another sentence L. has added to his repertoire of things Jesus is or does. Jesus loves me. Jesus helps me. Jesus died for me.

Does he know what that means? Nope.

But as he grows older, the understanding will come.

He’ll see that the cross on that marigold-colored card-stock represents God’s love displayed on this Earth. He’ll discover that “Jesus died for me” speaks of God’s incredible compassion for us, His desperately helpless creation.

One sentence becomes the foundation for hope and salvation and love and life worth living.

The words before the meaning? That’s okay with me.

The meaning will come. And, I pray, it will change his life.

Turning worry into weight loss

Okay, I thought that title would be a good one for attracting people to my blog via Google searches. After all, many readers find me when they do a search for “something died in my wall” or “my child eats carpet fuzz,” so why not expand my search engine reach by blogging about two pervasive topics: worry and weight loss.

But honestly, this post is more about the fact that worry seems to be an eternal struggle with me.

Here are the facts:

1. I know that the Bible tells me not to worry, but rather to pray.
2. I know that God is in control and that He hears my prayers and I can trust Him.
3. I still find myself worrying. And though I’ve made progress in trust more, worry less (only by God’s grace), it still happens far more than I’d like.

Sigh…

The other night, Chad was on his way home from out of town, and it just so happened that we were getting more snow that night than we’ve had in forever. Or at least in several years.

And, in fact, when I looked at the handy radar maps on Weather.com, they showed a big solid block of BLUE that stood for TREMENDOUS AMOUNTS OF SNOW that covered pretty much the entire area where Chad would be driving. And though Chad is an excellent driver, I was a tad bit concerned about all the crazies who were out driving when they had no business doing so. And I was pretty sure that the roads between Here and There would be littered with said crazies.

So naturally, I prayed and asked God to please keep Chad safe. I tucked the boys in and assured C. that dad would be home soon. And then I tried to figure out how not to worry. Chad thought he’d be home in two hours. Surely I could pass two hours, right?

I don’t know what it is with me. I’ve read that when worry is plaguing you, it’s best to just keep praying and keep turning it over to God. But I wonder if God gets tired of my own little prayer tennis match that goes something like this:

I’ll turn this over to God. No, wait, I’ll take it back again and worry a bit more. No, I’m going to pray and be done with this. But wait, just a little more dwelling on potential disaster. Okay, for real, this is it. I’m turning it over. Oh, okay, just one more little minute of worry.

Because if He doesn’t get tired of it, I sure do.

Now, I’m not at all saying that it’s bad to keep praying about something that’s causing me worry. I’m just saying that it seems like real trust would, at some point, stop taking it back to worry about again, you know?

So anyway, that night, I decided that both pacing the floors and a marathon eating session were just out. As I stared out the window, watching the snow continue to fall, fall, fall, I decided to keep busy by shoveling snow. C. had already done a fantastic job shoveling our driveway after school, but we had another half-inch or so that had accumulated since then. And at the rate the snow was falling, it wouldn’t be long until yet another inch would accumulate.

So I bundled up. Boots. Coat. Gloves. Oh, and iPod. If I was going to shovel snow, I might as well listen to an audiobook at the same time.

Within half an hour or so, I had shoveled the entire driveway and cleared off our walkway, and shoveled out in front of the mailbox, and somewhat cleared a spot in the grass next to where Chad parks his car, so he wouldn’t have to step out into several inches of cold snow. And as an added bonus, my heart was pumping and I was pretty sure I’d just earned a piece of chocolate or two.

I filled the next 90 minutes with laundry-folding, floor-swiffering, and counter-cleaning. Okay. Chad was due home any minute.

I didn’t want to call him, just in case he was trying to negotiate the road with one of the aforementioned crazy drivers. So I returned to my post by the window. And noticed that it looked like I hadn’t even shoveled the driveway, due to the persistence of the snow. Hmph.

So I bundled up again. Turned on the iPod again. And shoveled the driveway. Again.

By now, it was 10:30 at night. And as I faithfully cleared snow from the driveway, our neighbor arrived home and gave me a friendly honk. At least, I think it was a friendly honk. In retrospect, it could have been more like a What are you doing, shoveling snow at this hour, you crazy woman? kind of honk. I guess we’ll never know.

Still, shoveling passed the time, kept me from worrying, and assuredly burned even more calories.

I shoveled once more that night — after the snow offended me by continuing to fall, destroying all evidence of my hard work. I just hope I didn’t keep my neighbors up with the sound of shovel scraping asphalt.

Chad pulled in mere moments after I’d unbundled from that final shoveling expedition. Safe and sound. The snow had turned a 6-hour trip into an 8.5-hour trip, but he made it. Whew.

So that whole long story is simply to say… That for me, perhaps part of trusting God and “turning it over” is deliberately not giving myself even the chance to dwell on something worrisome.  It’s like saying, “I’m choosing to trust God and to not worry, and in order to follow through on that, I’m not going to allow myself to consider, mull over, or obsess any longer. Time to find a project.”

Busyness, distraction, even driveway-shoveling — they can all be useful tools. Oh, it would be nice if I could pray once and then instantly be worry-free. But if my mind is prone to drift toward worry, it might be best to drag my mind elsewhere, forcefully.

And hey — it doesn’t hurt to burn a few calories in the process.

My very own New Year’s

Happy New Year!

Okay, I know that technically, it’s already January 5th. But I’m pretending that it’s January 1st, because the actual New Year’s Day came and went in a bit of a blur.

Between making a quick out-of-town trip after Christmas, various gatherings with family and friends that spanned both Christmas & New Year’s, and a delightful, spontaneous visit from a dear college friend… well, I’m just now sitting down to breathe. And to realize that it’s already 2009.

Which means I’m going to have to get used to writing “09″ instead of “08″ on my checks and correspondence. (It usually takes me at least until March to make that yearly transition.)

And since we’re in a new year, I’ve also been thinking about those pesky things called resolutions. I won’t bother you with all the boring details, but I’ve established a few goals for this year, most of which involve using my time more wisely and, essentially, being less selfish about my use of time.

A little less laziness; a little more discipline. Less self-indulgence; more investing in others.

(I probably should have included something about less chocolate, but really, there’s no point in being crazy.)

So since today is my very own pretend personal January 1st, I’m going to take a little time to translate big goals into some concrete, one-day-at-a-time action steps. I’ll pray for God’s guidance and strength.

And I’ll be thankful that not only is every year a new year, but every day is a new day: a new day to evaluate where I am and where I should be; a new day to take steps toward goals and dreams; a new day to love those around me; and a new day to appreciate God’s love and mercy.

The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.

- Lamentations 3:22-23, ESV