Comments on: Book Thoughts: Flickering Pixels http://callapidderdays.com/2009/04/book-thoughts-flickering-pixels.html a random mix of faith, family, and the many things that fill my mind Wed, 23 May 2012 00:45:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Tanya Dennis http://callapidderdays.com/2009/04/book-thoughts-flickering-pixels.html#comment-14566 Tanya Dennis Wed, 15 Apr 2009 16:23:33 +0000 http://callapidderdays.com/?p=2113#comment-14566 You've convicted me with #1. It's true that social media can deplete traditional relationships. I often forget about those who don't have the internet or aren't on facebook/twitter/etc. It's not that I don't want them to know what's going on; it's just that I feel (since I blogged it and posted about it on four or five different sites, emails and more) that they already know. But they don't. I need to be more diligent about pursuing those relationships. As far as the internet creating "false intimacy" ... I don't know if this is 100% true. In some cases, absolutely! But in others, I don't think so. I have experienced both. One "friend" followed my blog, even emailed me personally for over two years then flipped on me. She berated me for my parenting skills, my spiritual maturity (or lack thereof, in her opinion), my marriage and what she believed was a lack of accountability. She even had me removed from a Christian forum I had belonged to. I believed she knew me and was my friend. In reality, she didn't know me at all, yet she used her influence and our apparent relationship against me. Other friends are genuine. I meet them online through my blog or theirs and we build a true relationship. We pray for each other, encourage and challenge one another. I've even met some at conferences and hope to meet others someday. Also, I've grown closer to those I know in person through social media. Things we don't have opportunity to learn about each other at church or moms group, we learn about each other on facebook or through blogs. Sorry for hijacking the comments section. This is just a very interesting discussion! You’ve convicted me with #1. It’s true that social media can deplete traditional relationships. I often forget about those who don’t have the internet or aren’t on facebook/twitter/etc. It’s not that I don’t want them to know what’s going on; it’s just that I feel (since I blogged it and posted about it on four or five different sites, emails and more) that they already know. But they don’t. I need to be more diligent about pursuing those relationships.

As far as the internet creating “false intimacy” … I don’t know if this is 100% true. In some cases, absolutely! But in others, I don’t think so. I have experienced both.

One “friend” followed my blog, even emailed me personally for over two years then flipped on me. She berated me for my parenting skills, my spiritual maturity (or lack thereof, in her opinion), my marriage and what she believed was a lack of accountability. She even had me removed from a Christian forum I had belonged to. I believed she knew me and was my friend. In reality, she didn’t know me at all, yet she used her influence and our apparent relationship against me.

Other friends are genuine. I meet them online through my blog or theirs and we build a true relationship. We pray for each other, encourage and challenge one another. I’ve even met some at conferences and hope to meet others someday.

Also, I’ve grown closer to those I know in person through social media. Things we don’t have opportunity to learn about each other at church or moms group, we learn about each other on facebook or through blogs.

Sorry for hijacking the comments section. This is just a very interesting discussion!

]]> By: Dianne http://callapidderdays.com/2009/04/book-thoughts-flickering-pixels.html#comment-14545 Dianne Mon, 13 Apr 2009 20:14:45 +0000 http://callapidderdays.com/?p=2113#comment-14545 Sounds like an interesting book. Kudos to the author for a different approach to the standard review, to encourage dialogue. That alone makes me want to read the book. I go back and forth on #1 all the time. With FB, I've pretty much decided it's a tool for me to deepen some "now" relationships, rather than increase my relational network to include everyone I've ever known! And for me, it's working. There's still a danger though, for me at least, to seek and be satisfied with the anonymous intimacy the internet offers. As for #2, we have decided to limit MacGyver to mostly vinyl and rubber toys, so technology doesn't come into play for him, unless you count his barking and sniffing when I'm on the phone! #3 is interesting. Makes me wonder why "place" was so important in the OT. But then I remember that I am supposed to be the temple so I guess I need to think about the atmosphere of my heart in worship. Something like that. Good food for thought! and I'm glad we are really more than just cyber-friends!! Sounds like an interesting book. Kudos to the author for a different approach to the standard review, to encourage dialogue. That alone makes me want to read the book. I go back and forth on #1 all the time. With FB, I’ve pretty much decided it’s a tool for me to deepen some “now” relationships, rather than increase my relational network to include everyone I’ve ever known! And for me, it’s working. There’s still a danger though, for me at least, to seek and be satisfied with the anonymous intimacy the internet offers. As for #2, we have decided to limit MacGyver to mostly vinyl and rubber toys, so technology doesn’t come into play for him, unless you count his barking and sniffing when I’m on the phone! #3 is interesting. Makes me wonder why “place” was so important in the OT. But then I remember that I am supposed to be the temple so I guess I need to think about the atmosphere of my heart in worship. Something like that.

Good food for thought! and I’m glad we are really more than just cyber-friends!!

]]> By: Alicia @ Experiencing Each Moment http://callapidderdays.com/2009/04/book-thoughts-flickering-pixels.html#comment-14541 Alicia @ Experiencing Each Moment Mon, 13 Apr 2009 01:15:40 +0000 http://callapidderdays.com/?p=2113#comment-14541 Wow, this was fascinating, and #1 was convicting considering the reason I came over her today in the first place...to THANK YOU for the birthday shout out on Twitter! That was such a thoughtful gift, and helped me reach my goal of 36+ comments!!! I really feel like there are some people I have connected with via blogging, but I must remember to show love (and intimacy) to those I care about who choose not to use those methods of communication. Thanks for the reminder! Wow, this was fascinating, and #1 was convicting considering the reason I came over her today in the first place…to THANK YOU for the birthday shout out on Twitter! That was such a thoughtful gift, and helped me reach my goal of 36+ comments!!! I really feel like there are some people I have connected with via blogging, but I must remember to show love (and intimacy) to those I care about who choose not to use those methods of communication. Thanks for the reminder!

]]> By: Lisa writes... http://callapidderdays.com/2009/04/book-thoughts-flickering-pixels.html#comment-14526 Lisa writes... Fri, 10 Apr 2009 22:57:54 +0000 http://callapidderdays.com/?p=2113#comment-14526 #1--yes. But not us, right? We're real friends, aren't we? :-) #2--yes, oh, yes. And not just the computer. I feel like I am constantly following my kids around saying, "Who are texting?" "What are you doing?" "What are you looking at?" Vigilance is wearying. Sometimes I hate technology. Mostly I love it, but sometimes, not so much. #1–yes. But not us, right? We’re real friends, aren’t we? :-)

#2–yes, oh, yes. And not just the computer. I feel like I am constantly following my kids around saying, “Who are texting?” “What are you doing?” “What are you looking at?” Vigilance is wearying.

Sometimes I hate technology. Mostly I love it, but sometimes, not so much.

]]> By: Jennifer, Snapshot http://callapidderdays.com/2009/04/book-thoughts-flickering-pixels.html#comment-14525 Jennifer, Snapshot Fri, 10 Apr 2009 22:23:17 +0000 http://callapidderdays.com/?p=2113#comment-14525 Very interesting! I agree with number 1 (and am guilty as well). I think it can greatly enhance our interactions, but I also think it does reenforce my tendency to hole up all alone. I'm not exactly sure how I feel on number 3. I swing back and forth drastically :) Yes, I think that technology can make our worship a more current -- and thus perhaps more meaningful -- way to connect with God, but I think that technology also can cause a worship service to lose some reverence and holiness. Very interesting!

I agree with number 1 (and am guilty as well). I think it can greatly enhance our interactions, but I also think it does reenforce my tendency to hole up all alone.

I’m not exactly sure how I feel on number 3. I swing back and forth drastically :) Yes, I think that technology can make our worship a more current — and thus perhaps more meaningful — way to connect with God, but I think that technology also can cause a worship service to lose some reverence and holiness.

]]> By: Book Psmith http://callapidderdays.com/2009/04/book-thoughts-flickering-pixels.html#comment-14524 Book Psmith Fri, 10 Apr 2009 20:33:59 +0000 http://callapidderdays.com/?p=2113#comment-14524 I am really getting frustrated with the people in my life who allow technology to take over the time we spend together. The cell phone, blackberry or laptap is always popping up during get togethers and family functions. Blogging is something I do when I have a moment to myself and I have worked hard to not let it take over my reading time or my obligations to family and friends. I also do not allow technology to interfere with good mannners (something I wish others would practice and teach their children if they do give them a cell phone). I am with you on strong technological boundaries when it comes to my kids. I feel like I am in a constant why-can't-I-get-a-cell-phone battle and I constantly monitor what my daughter is doing on the computer and who she is allowed to email, IM, etc. This is a great post and thank you for letting me know I am not alone. I am really getting frustrated with the people in my life who allow technology to take over the time we spend together. The cell phone, blackberry or laptap is always popping up during get togethers and family functions. Blogging is something I do when I have a moment to myself and I have worked hard to not let it take over my reading time or my obligations to family and friends. I also do not allow technology to interfere with good mannners (something I wish others would practice and teach their children if they do give them a cell phone). I am with you on strong technological boundaries when it comes to my kids. I feel like I am in a constant why-can’t-I-get-a-cell-phone battle and I constantly monitor what my daughter is doing on the computer and who she is allowed to email, IM, etc. This is a great post and thank you for letting me know I am not alone.

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