Christmas Pictures

Way back in October, I took C. (9) and L. (1) to get their picture taken. It was time for C.’s annual “birthday picture,” and I figured I’d kill two birds with one stone and have the photographer also get a couple shots of the two of them to include with Christmas cards this year. It would be great: I’d have Christmas pictures taken care of well in advance and I’d have a tangible memory of my boys’ great love for each other.

L., however, was apparently opposed to my desire to kill another bird. He clearly thought one bird would be plenty.

Oh, it didn’t start out that way. L. sat happily in his stroller while C. posed for his 9-year-old pictures. C. smiled at the camera; L. giggled happily while munching Cheerios and flirting with various studio employees. This’ll be a piece of cake, I thought.

Wrong.

The time came to put L. next to C. and get some adorable shots of the two brothers. But L. would have none of it. He resisted all of our attempts to get him to sit still. He refused the toys offered by the photographer. He cried and screamed when any of us tried to get him to laugh. He shoved C. away and acted like I didn’t exist. All he wanted was to run, run, run, run, run. Unfortunately, the picture studio was not set up for action shots. The general idea was: kids come in, sit down, smile, and the camera goes -Click-. But L. had no interest in complying with this simple, calm concept.

The other customers in the studio were torn between staring at my tornado toddler and smiling sympathetically at me. The other kids were pointing and giggling. Mothers were whispering things to them like, “Psst. It’s not polite to stare.” I am usually not easily embarrassed, but at that moment, I was just thankful that I didn’t know anyone there and would most likely not ever see them again.

I have to commend the photographer: he did his best. He ended up taking many pictures but, as I saw when I had the chance to review them, they all involved a crying 1-year-old. All except one, that is.

There was one picture with L. glaring — not yelling — at the camera. If someone who is not familiar with L. were to see the picture, they would assume he was just staring blankly. But, in fact he was merely taking a break between the screams as he glowered at all the unreasonable adults surrounding him. He was leaning onto a small gold box (our attempt at giving him a Christmasy-themed item that might convince him to sit still — to no avail, of course). C., patiently following our shouted directions to “Stay still! Keep smiling! Lean in toward L.!,” was kneeling nearby. He’s smiling, but his shirt looks a bit rumpled and the overall look says: slightly disheveled. No wonder, with a flailing one-year-old brother so close.

I could have rescheduled. I could have put off picture-taking until another day, when (hopefully) L. would be more amenable to our sit-still-and-smile requests.

No. Way.

I knew right then that I was not going to put myself, my kids, or the picture-taking staff through this misery again any time soon. Instead, I ordered some very nice pictures of C. and handful of the only non-screaming-L. picture of the two of them. And we left the mall, headed home, and took much-needed naps.

I would post that picture here for you, except I think there are goofy copyright laws against reproducing pictures taken at photo studios. But trust me — it was not the traditional, adorable, loving sibling picture that many people send out this time of year.

Apparently, in my haste to leave the store, I didn’t get enough pictures, so a couple weeks ago, I was faced with a dilemma: I still needed a bunch of pictures of the boys to send out. (I try not to inundate everyone with pictures of my children, but I know there are some relatives and friends who look forward to seeing how the kids are growing.)

Rather than go back to a studio, I decided I’d take a picture myself. I put the boys in coordinating sweaters, stuck them in front of the fireplace, sang silly songs to make L. smile, and was successful.

Look! They’re both smiling! They look happy and loving!

I ordered a handful of photo-cards using this picture and sent them to the remaining names on my list.

Chad and I can’t decide which picture we like best. The one above is cute, endearing, and makes our hearts all mushy. But the studio picture has its own positives: It showcases L.’s intensity, displays C.’s patient cooperation. And yes, it makes us laugh. I certainly wasn’t laughing at the time, but with a little distance, I can smile about it.

Lucky for us, we don’t have to choose. We get to keep both pictures. Even better, we get to keep the boys.

Book Giveaways: A Proper Pursuit and Growing Friendships

Today is the final Bethany House giveaway here at Callapidder Days this year and because of my poor planning skills, I actually have two books left. SO…today I’ll be giving away two books: one fiction and one nonfiction. They both look great! But first, I want to announce the winner of last week’s book, Mad About Us. The winner is Gigi Lynn. Congrats!

Now for this week’s giveaway. If the books below appeal to you and you’d like to be eligible to win one of them, just leave a comment on this post and I’ll put your name in the running. In your comment, please indicate which book you’d like to win, or if you’d like to be entered for both. This post will remain open for comments until next Wednesday at noon. I’ll then randomly pick two winners and announce them here next Thursday. Please make sure that when you leave a comment, there is an easy way to get in touch with you – via email or your own blog. This giveaway is open to readers in the U.S. and Canada. Thanks!

A Proper Pursuit
By Lynn Austin


With a large and devoted fan base, award-winning author Lynn Austin has become a favorite Christian novelist. Her expert storytelling and exceptional writing continue to draw new fans as well as earn her favor among the critics.With fourteen books and a movie on her résumé, her stories continue to appeal to a broad audience—and her new release is no exception.

Taking readers back to late-1800s Chicago, during the time of the World’s Fair, A Proper Pursuit follows Violet Hayes as she tries to find her mother, who has been missing from her life since shewas nine:

It seems a perfect backdrop for what Violet Hayes longs to experience: a little mystery, a little romance.

To be honest, it is more than a little mystery. She schemed her way to Chicago to discover the mother she barely remembered. As for romance…well, with the help of her grandmother and three great aunts, that is coming along nicely as well–perhaps too well. Each of her relatives–including her saintly grandmother–seems to have a separate agenda for her.

In the course of a summer, Violet’s world will open wide before her eyes. But in the wake of discovery, she must find a way to determine which path–and which man–will ultimately be the right lifetime choice for her.

Read an excerpt from A Proper Pursuit Here.
Read reviews from A Proper Pursuit Here.

Growing Friendships
By Tracy Klehn


For women who have inadvertently traded intimate friendships for hectic schedules and career- or family-filled lives, author Tracy Klehn has created a step toward reclaiming those sources of encouragement.

With women’s already crowded lives, connecting with others can be a challenge. Yet God offers friendships as a lifeline for women. But like flowers, relationships must be handled with gentle care. And Tracy offers excellent advice for growing friendships.

Women—no matter if they are single, a new mom, or an empty nester—can discover how to find and develop meaningful new friendships as well as nurture current relationships. They’ll also learn how to adjust as friends grow apart or move, and how to make their life the joy-filled journey it was meant to be by filling it with growing friendships.

Includes a list of two dozen practical ways to demonstrate love and devotion to friends.

“In this special book, Tracy gives us practical steps inspired by Scripture which help us nurture and safeguard each treasured friend in our lives.”
—Joni Eareckson Tada, Joni and Friends International Disability Center

Read an excerpt from Growing Friendships Here.
Use Amazon.com’s “Search Inside” feature to check out more of the book Here.

Emerging from under the flour, sugar, and pecans…

I am knee-deep in various baking supplies, but wanted to surface for a moment to let you all know: There will be a Bethany House book giveaway tomorrow (Thursday), but it won’t get posted until later in the day. I’ll be delivering many and varied baked goods in the morning, so the blog will have to wait just a bit.

In the meantime, if you’re still finishing up your Christmas shopping, the nice people over at Brighter Minds Media sent me a code for 40% off everything — that’s right, everything! To get the discount, just type in the code BLOG at checkout. L. heartily recommends Making Shapes and Making Numbers for toddlers.

Socially adept I am not. Or… I say a lot of dumb things.

I’ve mentioned that Chad and I tend to be homebodies. The thought of dressing up and going to a big party is more stressful than exciting; we’d both rather curl up at home with a good book. But now that I’m thinking about it, I wonder if Chad’s reason for preferring home over Major Social Events is that I drive him absolutely crazy after the fact.

See, I always feel like I do and/or say multiple really dumb things whenever I’m at a party, dinner, or other gathering. I’m not very good at small talk. But even more, I simply don’t handle off-the-cuff communication very well. Words come out wrong, or they don’t come out at all. I reply to a question with something that’s totally irrelevant. I make a casual comment, but realize later that it could have easily been interpreted differently — offensively, actually. And the whole way home, I’m convinced that I made a fool of myself — or worse, that I embarrassed Chad.

It would be so much easier if parties were more like email: someone says something to me, and then I have plenty of time to compose my response. I can run a spell-check relevancy-check, modify a phrase for clarity, cut off the whole first paragraph because it’s unnecessary, boring, or meaningless. But alas, real-time social interaction doesn’t work like that.

I’m sure that Chad is fairly tired of me following up every outing by asking him, “Did I embarrass you? Do you think I inadvertently insulted you-know-who? Have you decided that you’ll never take me out in public again?” He always assures me that I was just fine, that I didn’t embarrass him, and that, indeed, he doesn’t think I made any social faux pas. But I still ask.

Yesterday, I was running some errands and I did it again. I said two really, really dumb things. One — I don’t even know where it came from — was a weird, even bizarre, comment to a casual acquaintance that I ran into. The other was a completely mixed up phrase spoken to a complete stranger, in such a way that I sounded rude.

Ugh.

I do fine with friends and family. Maybe it’s the fact that there’s no pressure, and taking the pressure off allows me to just be me. But in other settings, with strangers or casual acquaintances, I struggle.

I’m not sure what I dislike more, though: the fact that so many dumb things come out of my mouth, or the fact that I beat myself up over it. I know, I know, I need to just chill out. That’s what Chad tells me, too.

Getting into the Holiday Spirit

Christmas will be here before we know it. And it will be gone before we know it too. The danger for me is that I’ll get so caught up in what needs to be done, bought, wrapped, sent, baked, decorated, etc. that I will miss the season itself — you know, that deliberate heart-focus on what Christmas is all about. I want to be thinking about God’s gift to us in his Son, demonstrating his amazing love; I want to do all the little things out of a gratitude toward him and a deep love for my family and friends; I want to slow down enough to think, to reflect, and to give thanks.

And so, rather than just rush from one to-do item to the next, here are some things I’m doing to get into the true spirit of the season.

  • Our family is reading an Advent book together every evening. This year, we’re going through The 25 Days of Christmas, and last year we did Looking Forward to the Nativity. Both books provide a great way to regroup at the end of the day, and remember together what God’s done for us.
  • As often as possible, I have Christmas music playing. My current favorite Christmas CD is The Carol of Emmanuel. Good stuff.
  • I keep fragrant candles burning. For some reason, the scent of a holiday-themed candle prompts me to remember why I’m doing the things I’m doing. (Plus, it helps to cover up the stink aroma of whatever is burnt to the bottom of my oven.) Right now, I’m enjoying a Cranberry candle from Root Candles — love it.
  • I try to wrap gifts without the TV — or other distracting noise — on. I might have some music playing, but mostly I try to think about the person who will receive the gift I’m wrapping at that moment. I might pray for them, thank God for their presence in my life, or just recall some good times we’ve had together.
  • I’m trying to incorporate C. into some of the tasks that might be easier if done by myself, but certainly won’t be as meaningful. Last night, we made a batch of Butter Pecan Cookies together. He was the official pecan chopper, and did a fantastic job. The recipe only makes 12 cookies and I can assure you that within 24 hours, the four of us had finished them off.
  • I’m enjoying collecting little tid-bits about the season, such as:
    • The story of Santa Claus (particularly as told in ‘Twas the Night Before Christmas) was instrumental in redeeming Christmas as a spiritual holiday (when, for years, it had been little more than crazy Mardi-Gras-type revelry). Check out this FamilyLife Today broadcast for more info and other nifty facts.
    • Macy’s department stores wrapped 1.3 million gifts for their customers last year. I have a mom and a sister-in-law who have been part of the Macy’s gift-wrapping frenzy service in the past, so I wasn’t entirely surprised by this number.
    • The largest snowflake ever found? According to the Guinness Book of World Records, it was 15 inches wide and 8 inches thick! Yikes.

So how about you? Are you in the holiday spirit? What are you doing to feed your soul, mind, and connection with others in the midst of all the busyness?