Flood Friends

As I flipped through the local TV channels today, there was one consistent theme. Across the bottom of the screen for all four-or-so channels ran those helpful weather warnings. Today it’s Flash Flood Warning, with a handy map of all the local counties blinking green, yellow, green, yellow.

I can’t hear the words “flash flood” without remembering something that happened 12 years ago.

It was about 1 a.m. and I groggily realized that the phone was ringing. Back in those days — younger days, thinner days, newlywed days, and most significantly, days before kids — I actually slept well. Unlike now, when the slightest noise catapults me from asleep to awake, I then slumbered peacefully. And all night long, in fact. Amazing.

Anyway, the phone was ringing. Now I’m one of those types who tends to not answer the phone if I’m in the middle of something. If I have a baby on one hip and am stirring the tomato sauce with my free hand and the phone rings…they’ll have to wait. If I’m reading blogs paying the bills and the phone rings…they’ll have to wait. My philosophy is: they can leave a message. If it’s urgent, I’ll hear the message and jump into action. If not, well, we can chat later.

But when the phone rings at 1 a.m., it’s either a very wrong number or an emergency. So my plan was to answer the phone. But I must have slept through the first four rings because by the time I swung my legs off the side of the bed, I heard the answering machine pick up. At that time, we lived in a small 2-bedroom apartment, and although the answering machine was in the other bedroom (read: room for the computer and the futon), I could hear it clearly, since it was really just a couple feet away. And here’s what I heard (after my cheery “leave-a-message” message):

“Katrina! I need you! Katrina? Katrina!!”

I knew the voice. It was my friend, Carrie (names have been changed to protect the innocent people who may or may not like their names broadcast on my blog, just to be safe). And she sounded desperate. I stumbled for the phone and picked up.

Carrie and her husband, John, lived in an apartment much like ours — a small apartment building, housing four or six individual units. Like us, they lived in a semi-basement unit which meant that the front of our apartments were underground, while the backs somehow had doors to the outside. The difference was, Carrie and John’s apartment was in a valley, while ours was not.

That night, they’d gone to bed as usual. It was raining, which was nothing new where we lived. But they awoke sometime after midnight to find that their bedroom had become a swimming pool. Water was up to the mattress, furniture was floating around, and it just kept rising. The rain hadn’t stopped and flash floods were in full effect.

I didn’t need to hear any more. “Come over now.”

And as I prayed for them, I set about rummaging for towels and dry clothes. I converted the futon into a bed and put some sheets on it. I woke Chad to let him know that they’d be coming, and then waited while they made the 15-minute drive to our apartment. Carrie and John arrived, soaked and scared, exhausted but unable to relax. Understandably. We stayed up and talked for a while about what they would do next, what we could do for them. And then we all climbed under our respective covers, though no one got much sleep that night.

In the end, the water had gone up about 5 feet in their apartment. By the time they got in the next morning, the water had gone down, but there was a line of grime along every wall. Furniture was upended and ruined. They had to start over. Chad and I did what we could to help. Insurance helped. There was some FEMA money distributed to those affected by the flood. And they got through it.

If there was more we could have done, we would have. Because they were our friends, and we know they would have done the same for us.

That got me thinking, today. Now, at this stage in my life, who are my “flood friends”? Who could I call at 1 a.m. to say “I need you!”?

In a physical emergency (flood, fire, etc.), I know there are many I could call, many who wouldn’t mind being awakened to take us in and dry us off. But what about emotional emergencies? Who could I call if feelings, emotional pain, trials, or relational tragedies were threatening to drown me? If the things I hold on to were suddenly (or even slightly) upended?

I’m so thankful to be able to say that I have a few precious, treasured friends like that. Friends who would take that call in the middle of the night. Friends who would pray with me, sit with me, cry with me. I’m grateful that God has placed those dear friends in my life.

I hope you have some “flood friends,” too. Maybe we should let some people know that we’d gladly be flood friends for them — that they can call on us anytime and we’ll be there, with a dry towel or a hand to hold.

Comments

  1. Jennifer, Snapshot says:

    This is something that I realize is weird and odd about myself. Since I process by talking, I don’t have much problem calling one of those emotional flood friends (and yes, I never for a moment take it for granted that I am blessed to have several).

    However, a physical need? I often worry about putting someone out. Fortunately I have friends who are caretakers and know when I need help, so that I’m not left high and dry, or in this case, am able to stay high and dry.

  2. Karen says:

    Flood friends are the best kind of friends. Unfortunately, all mine are half-way across the country right now. Let’s hope there aren’t any floods until we get to move back there in 3 years or so.

  3. angeleyes Blue says:

    I never thought about Flood Friends?! I feel that my friends know that my husband and I would always be there for them any time any day. We are so very fortunate that we haven’t really had any what you would call life emergencies.

    As I sit here and think aboutit there was that time a few weeks ago when One of the teens in our church youth group asked if she could stay with us for awhile.

    Being the chicken that I am I told her that I would have to talk to her parents and my husband about it. How cheesy is that?

    My husband–God Bless him took one look at this girl and said absolutely! You are here at our house all the time anyway, you are like one of my kids. You have a place to call home for however long you like. This is what the teenager truly needed. She needed someone to love her absolutely–no ? asked.

    Take no chances mom that I am I talked to the other mom–the therapist had suggested that her daughter find a new place to live for awhile. THE THERAPIST? Mary has been camping out in our living room ever since.

    She is like a daughter to us so does this make me/us Flood Family friends? Never thought about it.

  4. Susanne says:

    Beautiful post Katrina. I love how you ended too, with letting people know we’d be flood friends. Sometimes that is a very important ingrediant to those who don’t feel very free to be able to call on others.

  5. Dianne says:

    Flood friends. Good thoughts. We all need to have them. Like Jennifer, I think I might have a hard time calling someone but I’m nevertheless fortunate to have several friends I consider flood friends. Sweet post!

  6. Theresa says:

    Good post, Katrina! We all need those Flood Friends & we all need to be that for someone else!

  7. Beck says:

    THat’s a really interesting post – and I’m glad to realize that I DO have friends like that. A blessing!

  8. Joyful Days says:

    Awesome post Katrina. And it really stopped me in my tracks and made me grateful for the friends I do have.

  9. Big Mama says:

    I love my flood friends. Don’t know what I’d do without them. Great post.

  10. Barb says:

    I only have a few, but I do have flood friends and I think of them as life preservers. By the same token, I’m a flood friend, too. My friends know I’d be there for them at 1 o’clock in the morning.

    My word, your poor friends. How scary it must have been to wake up and see the furniture floating.

  11. Gretchen says:

    Great post. I’m glad your friends had you, and, it’s good to be mindful of who our “flood friends” are–cultivating them if need be.

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